Wednesday, March 11, 2009

End Of Kenny Tan's Blog

This blog is officially closed from today onwards due to the fact that I want to protect my privacy.

U can use this url to go to my links though as I will not tear it down.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Time For Emo!!!

Was on leave the past week and mymymy, does time really pass by just when you are really enjoying the slack feeling and no-stress and having nonchalance feeling towards everything in front of you, reality strikes back hard and fast.

God knows why every now and then my emotions within goes into disarray man. Maybe it is being alone at home and having too many ongoings and happenings whenever I am at work, suddenly, when I am on leave, I feel so lost and like there is nothing to do man.

Ya ya ya... I should do the LOGICAL thing and revise for my exams and my prelims which are round the corner. How much can I study man in a day when I still have other things to do like procrastinating, day-dreaming, thinking of what to do and of course, catching up on "lost sleep and lost time for personal things" LOL.. which adds up and the time of 24hours a day really is not enough man.

Translate that into minutes or even seconds and you can see that I have really wasted alot of time doing nothing at all.

Should I just prioritise my stuff and just concentrate on what is within my control and tangible?

I think I should man for a guy who is coming to be 25 years of age this year and of course, I cannot be still having so many emotional upheaval every now and then. It does not bold well for my maturity and I should behave more discreetly and display and show more maturity in my actions and speech and behaviour too.

Old habits die hard and habits, behaviour which are embedded inside me for the past god-knows-how-many-years stuff really need alot of time to be able to bring about change.

Another concern in my life which has been bugging me and it has also bugged many single guys I know. I shall just put it in a straight-forward manner here and declare HONESTLY that yeah, we all hope and wish to have a girlfriend year in and year out and of course, for every year which we are single, we keep hoping that before the end of the year or even the next year, fate and cupid will really help us man.

Do something about it but do it the right way oso never helps lei like in my case. Well, all my good friends who ever heard of this long-standing problem always all the sae the same god-damn old line which has been repeated so many times I think the number of times they said hor, put side by side the words, can reach the end of the universe and back,"Wait For Fate, Wait for your turn, your turn will come."

Cannot be bothered to wait le. Tried asking liao n after a couple of times, the gal always just dun wanna catch up lei. I oso dunno why. Being yourself is such a chore when it comes to dating man.

You be yourself, they think IS IT YOU. You behave like the rest of the pack and you lose. Chemistry oso need someone to do something to ignite one mah right. Since when did we ever go to a science experiment class for Chemistry, Biology or even Physics and reaction will happen without us, the experimenter, doing someting to ingnite the reaction right?

The same goes for the ting called FATE. Someone, a party, must really do something to make anything happen wat right.

Ok, end of my holiday le. Tomorrow go back work liao. MING TIAN HUI GENG HAO!!!

Friday, February 20, 2009

No Title To This Post

Many people have commented that to state personal feelings in blogs and online is really not the wisest thing to do but, other than this medium, some people do not have much avenue to go to as, friends and anyone you know can really get sick of listening to the same stuff again and again and again.... to the point they are not listening and just entertaining you man.

By typing it all out, it is in the hope that the typist and the blogger will feel better when the task is completed.

There are times, especially when I am alone and whenever I am on leave, I tend to think of many things and stuff that has happened in my life recently or not too long ago and, even things which has really taken place a long time ago. Yeah, I like to reminise about the past too haha... Who can fault me for this as it is what I am and I do not like to hide this and that. For the fear of being hurt, you keep all inside and in the end, you are the BIGGEST LOSER as you will be so paranoid that you do not trust anyone anymore till one day you get into slight depression and into FULL BLOWN DEPRESSION aka clinical depression.

Yupz, I do have my fair share of unhappiness too. Disappointment included. Things like asking someone I fancy out ah... haiz... really...sucks.... You hope for positive reply, wait and wait for the reply if no reply to your question, and all the hope, waiting and anticipation of a positive reply goes into overdrive and, that's when reality hits hard on you in the end when the reply comes back, a NEGATIVE reply.

Been trying so many times with different types of tactics by good friends and well-wishers alike. What worked for them did not work for me after a while man.

This leads me to conclude one thing: LOOKS R REALLY EVERYTHING IN LIFE!!

You look pretty, cute or handsome, cool and suave, everyone wants to be your friend. It is really the truth and I dare to put my head on the chopping board that inside every person, there is a need to look for the BEST LOOKING PERSON on earth to be with and copulate too. LAW OF NATURE WORKS THIS WAY.

So what happens to the average looking person like me and many others alike? We are the ones who people always jokingly says,"take the leftovers lor".

Tried to dispell this line stated above for almost 10 years of my life but in the end, the determination to prove this long-standing truth is waning and there is not much energy in me to continue this already.

The people I know and am surrounded by, all proves these 2 points, LOOKS FIRST. CHARACTER IS SECONDARY.

How else can you ever put your finger to any reason why there are still so many people hanging on to a relationship whereby there is no future and for most cases, the guy treats the girl worse than rubbish and she still hangs on to him?

The reason is simple, LOOKS LAH!!!!!! U see lor, many are the handsome ones mah. I have not come across a guy who is so average looking and the girl still steadfastly sticks to him when he treats her like shit lor.

Prove this pointer to me that the girl will let go once the handsome bastardly guy treats her like shit and please let people know, else, otherwise proven wrong, this line is correct.

Everyone likes to say, WAIT FOR FATE LAH, YOUR TIME WILL COME LAH, UR CHANCE WILL COME LAH, pls lah!!!!

Those who say all these are either: (1) Happily married, (2) In a relationship

And those who are always perpetually in a relationship aka relationship-hopper.

Pls leh, you all get into relationships so easily you do not understand nor will you all be able to sympathise with us folks who do EVERYTHING RIGHT but then still am single ok!!!!

How to wait for fate man? You tel me, if you like this girl and she is single and not in a relationship, you think wait n do nothing at all there will be attraction and chemistry meh? Only in romantic shows then will happen onli lah. Real life must do something then can one.

Keep motivating myself that those so-called time will come lah, my turn will come lah and i do not much and when i did so many thigns, wat the heck man, yah, i told myself as long as the girl is happy, i will be even if i do not win her heart but really lah, who the hell can say so coolly and behave like I-dun-give-a-damn attitude when things do not become positive man.

Even the toughest of the guys I know oso can breakdown and become another person so who is to sae tat it doesn't matter at all.

Hack man... I should juz do my own stuff and juz give up on this. YA right. When the mind thinks this way, can we as earthly and creatures on earth with built-in emotions and feelings stop the feeling of being attracted to the opposite gender at all?

HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Spring Cleaning AKA EXERCISE!!

Did the window-cleaning for the whole of my house man! Waa... It took my a total of 2 weeks to do this feat as I was working and had to take leave to specially do the cleaning in time for CNY.

Fingers are now kind of sore and slightly swollen man but heck, I got the benefits too. I got a good workout which is somehow a good form of exercise for me as it has been ages since I last did a good sweaty workout.

Frankly, I do have to admit that I do not have the same amount of energy to keep going at cleaning the windows as when I was doing my NS. Could be due to the fact that I have not been exercising regularly man!! Time to do more exercise once CNY celebrations are over provided I do not prostrastinate and put it off and find more excuses for myself haha...

Almost completed the spring-cleaning and there are just some minor touch-ups to do and I will be done for this job!

Also hung new curtains for my room and for the second living room in my house. Really shag and overall, I must say it is really rewarding to see my house transform from not-so-clean to VERY CLEAN thanks no small part to yours truly hardwork haha...

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Many Positive or Negative Thoughts Are Man's Nature

Took down the blog entry I typed in the middle of last night, but, just before I could do that, I guess there have been some readers to the previous one.

Anyway, 1st things 1st. Thanks Xinyi for the encouragement in the tagboard when I should be the one showing example and stuff haha since being the oldest one in the group LOL. Thanks ya though. Appreciate much! :-)

There are moments each day and during certain periods of the year whereby as humans, we tend to be more emotionally happy or upset and it has been proven time and again in research. All these point to the hormone chemicals in our bodies creating havoc at times which in turn affects our mood.

Notwithstanding this, I am also a victim of the hormonal imbalance at times haha.

The upside is that, being at the top of the food chain, we are better able to control our thoughts and use our brains and mind to, yes you got it right, to control our emotions and thoughts and actions better than the rest of the animal kingdom.

So, friends and dear valued readers, let us strive to have a more positive mindset from dawn to dusk as it is what life is all about ya, to live life to the FULLEST as we do not know how long and when we will be in this beautiful planet we call Mother Earth aka Planet Earth.

Take time to slow down at times do wonders for the mind and emotional state. Everyone needs to slow down to smell the roses ya. Even watching cars zipping by, humans walking pass, which we Singaporeans term as "stoning", really works for wonders!!

Try it and you will know I am not trying to hookwink you.

Thanks and good day! :-)

Saturday, January 03, 2009

Body Aging but is the Mind Still in Child's State?

For some people, some adults to be exact, the title of this blog suit them to a "T" for some very obvious reasons.

To elaborate on this, I shall state one of my own real-life example which happened to me not to long ago when I was doing my part-time studies and another incident which was the link to this issue too to further illustrate on this matter and to further strengthen and prove this point too.

Was in one lesson around 2-3 weeks ago and, my group of friends and me were having a slight joke which erupted into laughter from us. Well, who doesn't have moments of this kind of fun in class at times to keep yourself awake and wanting to go to school as it is really one of the main reasons why students all over the world generally like to go to school: to have fun with friends on top of pursuing an education.

Back to the main point. There was this guy who was irritated with us and came to tell us off. During break time, he walked past us and used vulgarities on one of my female friends. Seeing that was not the right thing to do to a lady, I wanted to confront him but was stopped in my tracks by another female friend.

So, I did the next best thing and told his female friend to tell him that it was not the right thing to do and apologised to her if we did make noise which irriated them.

After class, the guy came to find trouble with me and asked me to go to the stair landing to talk about "reason". Well, I obliged him and there, I apologised to him regarding the whole issue and for any matter or any word which I might have said which upsetted him.

For him, he had to apologise only and ONLY when I told him about his wrongdoings. What a guy man!! Wanting to show off but then in the end, he was made a mouse in front of me with my reasoning skills.

Sensing that all he wanted to do was to provoke me into getting into a tussle or to use my fists on him which was quite a childish thing to do at this age, after spending a good 20 minutes with that guy, I just told him off that he was just trying to make a mountain out of a molehill and left the scene, with him spewing off some more vulgarities and running down the flight of stairs at the same moment I left.

Saw him in the same bus on my way home from class yesterday and realised that he was from the same secondary school as me previously and was my senior too as he knew one of my friends who is my senior.

Walked up to him and tapped him gently on his shoulders, telling him no hard feelings and extended my hand in the hope of shaking hands and gaining a new friendship but his next action really shocked me. He just turned around and shouted, "FUCK OFF!"

Wow!! For someone who is going to be 26 years of age this year and still behaving as such really speaks volume of his behaviour and his character and personality as a person.

This is the real-life example from my life recently which shows how someone who really can be older in the years but still the mind is still stuck in the primitive age of being a young teenager who thinks that provoking another into a fight and spewing off vulgarities as and when he sees fit to show that he has "matured", come of age, responsible for his actions.

Though this incident really pissed me off but at the end of the day, I just find that confronting him back or doing something else like what one of my good friends suggested, just serves me no value-add to any aspect of my life except to practise my patience and tolerance to a higher level.

Let's wish that guy well in his future and may he one day come to his senses too as he is afterall, my friend's friend and we once shared the same school campus for our formative years in our life from a tween to a teen.

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Last Blog Entry For 2008

Went to work as usual this morning. Almost late for work as I was very sleepy and slept in for what I thought was a little while more, which added up to another whopping 40 minutes more man!!!

Luckily for me, I rushed through the preparation of getting ready for work. Phew!! Got to the meeting point to take my company's bus to work. Heng ah!!! How lucky can you get man!

Work was fine today too. Not much stuff to do except for those which needed urgent processing. Finished my work at 4:30pm which was not bad considering that I ended work at almost 6pm on Christmas eve and was thinking and mentally prepared to work till 6pm this evening too. What a pleasant surprise for me in store today man! :-)

Went to Bugis to have steamboat dinner with two of my colleagues, Eric and Zhen Qi. Had a pretty good chat with them and as all good things must come to an end, we left for home at about 10pm.

During the conversation with them during dinner, I realised that it is never good to discuss work with anyone outside the office hours and outside office as it always make me seem like I am so angry and upset about stuff man. It does not do my personal reputation any good.

Time to reconsider thinking and stopping for a moment before I even answer any question that is coming towards my direction.

Wishing that I can get more control over my emotions and my reactions for 2009. Well, as for many people, I am always compared and dare I say it in this blog entry which quite a number of my colleagues already know about this blog existance, there is really a drift in my relationship with many of my colleagues in my current workplace.

Just as I have lived my life for the past 22 years before I went to the workforce for the past 2 years, currently at 24 years of age, I dare to live by my personal slogan again which is, "I can accept you for who you are, be it flaws and stuff, I also hope that you accept me for who I am inclusive of my flaws."

No one is 10/10 in this world man!! Who ever gave you the permission to change me man! I do not live for you and you do not live for me only too. Please stop being childish and trying to change people to suit your own selfish needs and wants and criterias man.

If you want to change people, then be prepared that there will be backlash from the person and the person will demand you change something of you too. There is no one-way street in this world. Everything works both ways, just like in the Physics theory, there is an EQUAL amount of force repelling back at you for every amount of strength you use.

SO WAIT UP YOUR IDEA LAH!!! THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU SELFISH N FOOLISH MORONS!!


Happy New Year!